One Powerful Way To Overcome Your Fears

overcome your fears

Our irrational fears have the power to stop us from living life to the full, but there are also proven techniques that help us overcome them.

We are all fearful of something, for example:

  • fear of flying
  • fear of public speaking
  • fear of meeting new people
  • fear of darkness
  • fear of heights
  • fear of change

What are the fears you are grappling with that hold you back?

There are thousands of websites with tips on how to overcome your fears, and Feel the Fear and do it Anyway is certainly good advice.

You need to embrace your fear and carry it across the threshold of resistance, a hard step to take, and many people prefer to avoid what they are afraid of.

But there is one powerful way to overcome your fears, which I want to share with you.

First, you need to know what fear does to your body.

Imagine feeling nervous about an upcoming job interview.

Your body reacts by producing adrenaline that is circulating through your body, increasing your heart rate and after a while making you feel sick.

Your nervousness, which is caused by fear, increases, and reaches its climax when you actually attend the interview.

By this time, some people are visibly nervous and have difficulties communicating clearly and confidently.

But a rush of adrenaline is also caused by another feeling:

EXCITEMENT

Transforming your fear into excitement makes use of the adrenaline your body is producing.

This way, you are not fighting your body’s reaction to your fear but transmute it into new, positive energy.

Instead of telling yourself that you are feeling scared or fearful, tell yourself that you are feeling excited.

Excited about

  • meeting new people
  • showcasing your skills and expertise
  • finding out, if this new job will be a good fit
  • this new opportunity on offer
  • learning from this experience

The more you tell yourself that you are excited about this job interview, the more your fear will weaken and turn into positive energy.

While fear is negative stress that drains you, excitement is positive stress that makes you feel alive.

Perhaps this technique is putting a smile on your face, it may even sound ridiculous to you, but try it next time you are nervous or afraid.

Turn your fear into excitement.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

22 Spring Self-Care Ideas To Nourish Your Soul

spring self care ideas to nourish your soul
Image: Three of Wands, Housewives Tarot

Spring is the time of new beginnings, starting afresh, getting out and about, longer days, warmer weather and nature waking up from its long winter slumber.

How can we make the most of this get-up-and-go energy?

Here are 22 Spring self-care ideas to nourish your soul:

  1. Get up earlier in the morning to watch the sunrise and listen to the dawn chorus.
  2. Open the windows more often to let fresh air into your rooms.
  3. Buy yourself spring flowers like daffodils and tulips.
  4. Plan and book a holiday.
  5. Declutter and spring clean your home.
  6. Consciously eat more fruit, veg and salads.
  7. Create a music playlist on Spotify that makes you spring into action.
  8. Exercise outdoors.
  9. Feed the birds – they need it now while raising their young.
  10. Reorganise your wardrobe. Put your winter jumpers away to make room for your spring and summer clothes.
  11. Burn citrus or apple essential oils to invigorate your senses.
  12. Start a creative Spring journal – list your goals, plans, new seasonal recipes, photos, vision boards, inspiration, tarot spreads and journal prompts.
  13. Sow seeds in your garden or in pots on your window sill – flowers, veg, herbs.
  14. Go for nature walks more often. Explore.
  15. Meditate outdoors.
  16. Take up a new hobby or learn a new skill. Learn Tarot!
  17. Less screen time, more me time.
  18. Meet up with a friends for breakfast or afternoon tea.
  19. Be more spontaneous.
  20. Change or tweak your same old routines to make them more interesting or exciting again.
  21. Read a new inspirational book or magazine.
  22. Start a regular savings account for a minimum 12-month term and watch your money grow.

Colours of Spring: green, yellow, white, soft pink and turquoise – good to know if you want to freshen up your home, wardrobe, crafty projects etc. with some seasonal colour magic

What’s your favourite spring self-care practice to nourish your soul? Please do let me know. I’d love to hear from you.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

Setting Goals For The Year Ahead When You Don't Have Any

setting goals for the year ahead
Are you on the road to somewhere?

New year, new beginnings, resolutions and intentions – setting goals for the year ahead.

For everyone making plans at this time of year, there are tons of diaries and planners available covering a variety of themes to help turn dreams into reality.

If you want to get somewhere or achieve something, those planners are designed for you to write everything down and check up on yourself every day / week / month.

Even I have created the Tarot Moon Journal workbook (in its 7th year!) for all tarot enthusiasts, who not only want to be more mindful about their aspirations, but also want to learn some new tarot skills along the way.

But perhaps you are thinking that this is not for you, because you don’t have any specific goals except survive and have some good times along the way.

For many people, 2019 turned out to be difficult and even traumatic at times, and if you are one of them, then perhaps all you want to do is pick yourself up and simply make the most of the cards you are going to be dealt with this year.

Yes, it’s perfectly okay not to have any goals.

Don’t worry about it. Just let all that hype go.

A better way is to tune into your growth mindset and set daily/weekly intentions together with small tasks that are achievable, so you can take mindful action to live your best life every day.

You can do a bit of soul work with your tarot cards to gain some perspective and direction.

Perspective is always good, especially when you feel you’re drifting and you don’t quite know what you want or where you’re heading.

Start off by calculating your year card (mine is Justice this year)

Then, work out your word for the year based on your year card (my word for this year is LEAP).

working out your power word of the year
Check out the Cosmic Faery’s Journal Workbook for creative tarot journaling ideas

Your personal power word will offer you a sense of purpose, direction and guidance over the next twelve months ahead.

Now you should have some idea of what you might want to focus on over the coming months, and you can continue to draw tarot cards for more specific ideas.

On the image below you can see a page from my Tarot Moon Journal, on which I have simply recorded the cards I drew for specific areas in my life:

tarot moon journal page
Tarot journaling for healing and personal growth…

These cards can give you a hint on what you may wish to aim for, but if not, then just leave them there and revisit the page from time to time to see, how the messages of the cards begin to unfold.

There’s no need for having any flashy goals in order to have a great year ahead.

If you have experienced loss, heartache, health issues or any other challenging situation, every little step towards recovery and healing will be a huge achievement.

Drawing a card and asking What can I do today to help me heal? can be an empowering way to make a positive difference without getting overwhelmed by elaborate or even out-of-reach goals.

Once you have made a start with your year card and personal power word for 2020, you may feel a little more in control of the direction you wish to take.

And having at least some control over your life is a good feeling. You can build on that with regular journaling as a personal development and healing tool.

If you would like to learn more about creative tarot journaling for healing and personal growth, then please check out my free resources.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

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Meditating with a Wandering Mind

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Meditation is often seen as sitting in the lotus position with your eyes closed and all those pesky thoughts in your head blissfully silenced.

However, many people are meditating with a wandering mind, unable to switch off intrusive thoughts.

First of all, as long as you feel comfortable, you can meditate in whatever position you choose – on a chair, on your sofa, in your bed, on the grass….

Next, we all know it is so much harder trying to suppress or avoid something. In fact, you can make it worse the harder you try.

For example, if I asked you to look around the room you are in now and NOT look at anything that is red, I bet you WILL look at everything that is red.

And if I asked you NOT to blink, yes, you guessed it, you WILL blink.

So, what to do about those annoying thoughts you can’t silence during meditation?

The answer is simple: accept them. Let them be. Don’t judge them or yourself.

And while you are meditating with a wandering mind, focus on your breathing and let those thoughts come and go.

If you are listening to a guided meditation, don’t be irritated by any unwanted thoughts creeping in.

It’s normal.

Silencing your monkey mind takes practice. After all, sitting there doing and thinking nothing is not as easy as everyone thinks 🙂

You can also try chanting mantras, if you are meditating on your own.

You will find, however, that despite your thoughts getting in the way at times, your meditation will have given you space and a break from rushing around.

The reality of meditation is being present in that moment, observing your breath, your senses, your body and even your random thoughts without judgement.

And while you keep practicing meditation, surrender to what is while gently offering your mind an alternative direction.

The more you practice, the easier it will become, but it will benefit you right from the start.

Need a guided audio meditation? Check out my Meditation for the Wandering Mind 🌝

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

Emotional Healing with the Pisces Full Moon

emotional healing with the pisces full moon

There is always something mystical about the full moon – its illumination, intense energy and impact it has on our feelings and emotions.

The Pisces full moon is just around the corner and has already gifted me with some psychedelic dreams 🙂

But weird dreams are a sign of something more magical – the full moon’s power to supercharge our intuitive, psychic and artistic abilities.

Even more so, tuning into the Pisces full moon energy can help us recognise and free ourselves from emotional blocks and self-limitations.

So, let it all come out, feel what you feel, sit with it and observe it without judgement. It’s all part of emotional healing.

In practical terms

  • if in doubt, trust your gut
  • be mindful that emotions may become more intense, which can be confusing
  • express your feelings without shame (crying is a good stress reliever)
  • pay attention to your dreams
  • meditate to open your third eye
  • get creative (write, draw, make)
  • apologize sincerely to someone you hurt in the past
  • connect with your spirit guides or any cosmic forces you want to connect with
  • practice calming yoga poses (e.g. child’s pose, shavasana, lotus)

You can access full guidance with a snapshot spread and journaling prompts in the Cosmic Spirit Sanctuary on Patreon.

While the Pisces full moon can assist with emotional healing, please remember that there is no miracle cure happening overnight.

Emotional healing is a process, and during the upcoming lunation we have the chance to move this process forward, to progress on our journey.

How can the Tarot assist you on your healing journey?

Check out this wonderful article I have recently discovered – Tarot and Astrology are recognised to be beneficial for mental health and as a result used more widely in mainstream therapeutic settings.

That’s why in my work I focus on teaching the Tarot and how you can apply this magical tool in everyday life to nurture your mental wellbeing in an empowering way.

For regular guidance and online support, please do check out my very affordable membership options.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

When Patience Becomes A Curse

Patience is a virtue.

Or is it?

I have been brought up to be patient, to avoid short-fused hot-tempered reactions, to take my time rather than rushing, to be patient with myself while trying to learn a new skill etc.

But along the way I have noticed that sometimes patience was holding me back.

Like when I was patiently

  • tolerating toxic people, hoping they would change
  • sticking with a shitty relationship, hoping it would miraculously turn into something wonderful
  • enduring a dead-end job, hoping its boredom and lack of spirit wouldn’t kill me
  • serving and giving my all, hoping that one day I would be appreciated

It can be easy to confuse patience with not setting boundaries.

Because patience often requires effort, it can be exhausting after a while.

So when you pull Patience from the Cosmic Journaling Oracle deck, you can ask yourself:

  1. Do I need to be more patient, or is it time to set some boundaries?
  2. Who is testing my patience? Is it worth it?
  3. In the past, in what situations should I have been more patient and why? And when did patience not serve me but stopped me from moving forward?
  4. How do other people show patience towards me (in a family setting, amongst friends or at work)? Have I tested their patience?

Patience is a virtue, but it can also be a curse. How is patience serving you?

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

Ten of Wands: Watch Your Posture

Sometimes it’s fun but also worthwhile taking tarot images literally.

When the Ten of Wands pops up as your guidance card for the day (or week), ask yourself whether you have been paying attention to your posture recently.

We often allow our bodies to slouch and stoop without realising that this can have a huge effect on our mood, self-esteem and confidence.

On top of that, someone with a stooped posture can indicate unconscious limiting beliefs or emotional baggage they keep carrying around.

So, check in with yourself right now. Are you standing tall and straight?

Shoulders back with chest forward is your ideal posture.

A quick and easy exercise you can do to lift your mood instantly is to stand tall and lift your arms with your hands in fists (or victory sign) as if you have just scored a goal.

watch your posture

While in this victory pose, say to yourself something like I am strong, I am powerful or I can do this. Anything that spurns you on for the day and gets you going with more positive energy.

This is a great little exercise to turn into a daily habit as it will improve your wellbeing not just on a physical but also emotional level.

You can do it as often as you like during the day.

Why don’t you make a start today and let me know how it makes you feel?

And if you would like to learn how to use the Tarot for wellbeing and personal growth, then find out how you can work with me.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

Overcoming Overwhelm and Mental Blocks

overcoming overwhelm and mental blocks

Feelings of overwhelm and mental blocks can come up at any time.

Sometimes they are triggered by a situation or event. In my case it was a cold with flu symptoms just after Christmas that has thrown me off course.

I took time off work keeping warm in the house with nice food, books, herbal teas and TV entertainment.

I started feeling better by the new year, but there was a persistent fog in my brain that was pretty hard to shift.

So I decided that fresh air would be in order, and the pics above are from my New Year’s walk with my love in the local park.

Even though I still had the sniffles, it was such a fantastic day dreaming and looking forward to the year ahead.

But still, my head was filled with all sorts of stuff, from creative ideas and mundane life things that needed to be done right through to worries about Brexit (I’m an EU citizen living in the UK, and a no deal would be disastrous), which I’d been trying very hard to ignore…

So, I’ve felt a bit overwhelmed with everything I need to get on with and life in general, and when that happens, my midlife brain can no longer cope and begins to scatter 🙂

BUT….I do have some techniques to help me cope and overcome this unfortunate phase, which is thankfully slowly beginning to wane.

1. Breathe…take a deep breath and start at the beginning. Rather than looking at my long to-do list and long-term goals, I do something small each day that I can cope with and complete.

It’s like putting those jigsaw puzzle pieces together one-by-one to create the whole picture.

2. Distract….Worrying can make the situation even worse, so it’s best to accept the current state and switch off with a great book, inspiring magazine, movie or TV program helps to focus my mind on something completely different.

It gives my brain not only a well earned break but is also kickstarting new ideas.

3. Enjoy….doing an activity that makes you happy. Over the last two days I tidied and decluttered my home filling four bags of stuff going to charity. And I’m not done yet! 

4. Overhaul my diet…Over recent months I’ve been reducing my meat intake down to just once a week. I love vegetarian/vegan food and discovered new recipes and ingredients. I love sweet potato burgers!

If we all cut down on our meat intake to just once a week, that would reduce greenhouse gases by a lot.

5. Reduce my plastic consumption…since we were made aware of the huge plastic island in the Pacific and microplastics in marine life and food chain, I’m getting more conscious about the amount of plastic coming into my life.

For example, liquid soap in plastic bottles (I’m now using more soap bars), food in plastic containers. Wherever possible, I choose glass bottles or no packaging at all. I’ve been using my own reusable shopping bags for years.

6. Saying NO… Less is more in terms of work commitments and projects. I only say YES to what makes me happy and fulfils me. I have chosen not to feel obliged to fulfil other people’s expectations or demands.

7. Fresh air…yes, more of it! It’s something I haven’t had enough of recently. That new year’s walk in the park was like therapy. I want more of that, so I’m out again tomorrow.

8. Journaling….I so love writing, even if it’s just a sentence, a pic, doodle or making a note of a fab quote I’ve come across on social media.

creative journaling

For that purpose, I’m using the creative printables I’ve designed, which you can grab here.

Yes, it can be unsettling when overwhelm and mental blocks dominate your life, but eventually by not giving yourself a hard time over it, life will also take you back into the flow.

Last but not least, try this tarot spread/ journaling prompt ideal for overhauling old and dusty habits:

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

Raise Your Vibes with A Gratitude Tarot Exploration

raise your vibes with a gratitude tarot exploration

Thanksgiving Day in the US is a gentle reminder for all of us around the world to pause and consciously appreciate all the goodness in our lives.

But perhaps you are one of those people, who cannot think of much to be grateful for right now.

You may have been experiencing a difficult time – relationship breakup, unemployment, poverty, illness, bereavement…

It’s easy to get cynical in such a situation. I know. 

A time of year so devoted to being grateful for what we have, can also painfully make us aware of what we have not, or what we have lost.

But I would like to invite you to be open to gratitude. 

Expressing your appreciation for even the simplest things that actually do go right in your life can help you create a shift in your perception to a higher vibrational level.

And why not use the Tarot to help you along? 

You can approach your Gratitude Tarot exploration in two ways:

1. Go through the whole deck and choose one thing for each card you are grateful for. 

2. Or just pick a few cards at random to explore what you can be grateful for at this moment in time.

Examples:

Wheel of Fortune – grateful for those lucky turn of events in my favour

Three of Pentacles – grateful for all the experience gained from working with fantastic people

King of Swords – grateful for having stopped all the emotional drama in my life once and for all

The Moon – grateful for the magic, mystery and imagination in my life

Two of Wands – grateful for new opportunities I’m excited about

Remember to make a note of them all in your journal (check out the Tarot Moon Journal).

Why don’t you give this gratitude tarot exploration a try and raise your vibes today.

Pick as many cards as you like, and perhaps you will even enjoy drawing a daily card to express your gratitude for something (or someone!) good in your life right now.

Special journaling prompt: 

What can I be grateful for in my life that money can’t buy?

Discover your hidden blessings with the Tarot!

Warmest wishes,

Christiane


How Curiosity Can Boost Your Happiness

how curiosity can boost your happiness
Curiosity killed the cat, and satisfaction brought it back.


“Why is it that when one man builds a wall, the next man immediately needs to know what’s on the other side?”  

– George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones

Do fears, low self-esteem and other self-imposed restrictions hold you back?

Then you may be surprised to learn that developing and nurturing a curious mind can help you overcome these blocks and boost your happiness.

As children we had no inhibitions when it came to expressing our creativity or exploring unknown places.

But while growing up, we started to develop all kinds of insecurities and self-doubt, which have become so hard to shake off.

Curiosity is a surprisingly simple and useful tactic that will help you make some positive changes, and that’s why I included it in the Cosmic Journaling Oracle.

Next time you are fearful of something, be curious instead.

Explore despite your fears. Express yourself and be curious about where it leads you.

Invited to a party, where you don’t know anyone but the host?

Say yes, even if you fear awkward moments or lack confidence talking to people. Be curious about getting to know new folk.

Show off your art anyway, even if you fear criticism or rejection.

Be curious about what people have to say. Even ask them for feedback. Wouldn’t it be great to know what people think rather than making assumptions?

Be curious about different places to visit, different music, food, activities, even a different career.

Curiosity boosts your happiness as it creates excitement and the thrill of conquering fears and self-limitation.

Curiosity in the Cosmic Journaling Oracle asks you to replace any blocks you have with a sense of wonder and the open mind of an explorer.

Explore new opportunities and experiences.

Instead of No, say Yes. Why not?

When this card comes up in a reading, ask yourself:

  • When were you last curious about something? Did you ignore the feeling or embraced it to experience something new?
  • What do you need to be more curious about in your life? You could draw an additional card to find out.
  • How has curiosity affected you in childhood? How does it affect you as an adult?
  • Has curiosity at any time got you into danger? If yes, when and what’s the story? How was it resolved? What did you learn from it?

Likewise, when this card comes up in a “what not to do” position, you may want to avoid being nosey, e.g. meddle in other people’s issues that are none of your business.

And curiosity isn’t about being reckless, getting yourself into life danger or gamble all your life savings…

The Cosmic Journaling Oracle is now available as a digital edition together with a guidebook containing journaling sheets and other printable goodies. Learn more here.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane