Cosmic Spirit Wellness

Independence – The Joy of Being Alone

One of the harsh lessons the pandemic has taught us is that learning to embrace being alone contributes to our wellbeing and resilience.

When you begin to discover the joy of being alone, magical things start to happen:

1. You become more creative

Being on your own means that you have to fill your time with interesting activities.

2. You are getting out of your comfort zone

Don’t want to be home alone? You decide to go to a cafe or go on holiday anyway. You learn there is no point in missing out only because you don’t have someone else joining you.

3. You can relax and recharge

There is no need to compromise, keeping other people happy, and you have the big bed all for yourself.

4. You get to know yourself

Reflect on your needs and aspirations, your strengths and weaknesses and give yourself the space to fall in love with yourself.

5. You learn to enjoy your own company

When you focus on the positive aspects of being alone, you begin to thrive and enjoy life.

6. You no longer feel lonely

Being alone doesn’t mean you are lonely. You know that you can reach out to people and cultivate a small circle of true friends to connect with.

7. You can be yourself

No need to apologise for not meeting someone else’s expectations, or seek approval by how you look, what you wear, or even how much you fulfil the other person’s needs.

8. You have the chance to fulfil your dreams

Relationships can be stifling, and it is easy to get stuck in routines.

Being on your own helps to be more mindful about exploring and pursuing your goals and dreams.

You can be more adventurous without having to explain yourself.

9. You feel you are in charge of your life

You have control over your finances, work, where you want to live, your sex life, travel destinations, and the company you want to keep and when.

10. You no longer are desperate to be in a relationship

This is one of the most magical effects. So many people embark on a new relationship only because they don’t want to be alone.

They stay in the wrong relationship, because they are scared of feeling lonely, if they leave.

Being at ease in your own company, being your own best friend means that you no longer engage in or put up with drama. You become discerning and choose your company wisely.

Once we have discovered the joy of being alone, we no longer get caught up in making bad decisions about relationships. We no longer neglect friendships for the sake of a relationship.

It is time to shed the idea that being alone – as opposed to being in a relationship – is a weakness or even tragedy in one’s life.

The true tragedy is not being able to be alone, unable to be solitary and enjoying it, not knowing that you are enough.

It is time to embrace being alone – alonement – as a gift to live a fulfilled life.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

⭐gET INspIrEd⭐

A movie that recently moved me: Portrait of a Lady on Fire – it brought tears to my eyes not because it was sad, but because it was so incredibly beautiful and emotionally powerful

A book I’m currently hooked on: The Subtle Art of not Giving a F*ck – witty, entertaining, and so incredibly wise. Life-changing stuff

My latest Musical Muse: Wanderlust – my personal song collection on Spotify for day-dreams and mind-travel

I Am Not What Happened To Me…

I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become – one of the many life lessons the Tarot has taught me over the years.

There is much beyond our control, but we can choose how we react to what life throws at us.

Rejections, breakups, abuse, loss….

Once you become aware of how your life experiences have influenced and affected you, you have the power to choose what kind of person you want to be, and what kind of life you want to live.

You even have the power to choose how you want to feel.

You have the power to choose a new direction, being different, and cultivate kindness and joy.

You have the power to choose change, forgiveness, healing.

You have the power to choose living in alignment with your talents, needs, values and resources.

Be your own magical influencer.

It is never too late to make that choice.

What are you choosing today?

⭐Live more Magic with the Tarot⭐

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

Stagnation – Making the Most of Feeling Stuck

Stagnation – the opposite of moving, growing, progressing.

An uncomfortable feeling of restlessness, the urge to get up and go, but you can’t…

Who wants to be stuck in limbo?

Waiting for a new job to come up (especially when you are unemployed).

Waiting for new love to come into your life (when you begin to feel that you have been single for too long).

Waiting for a house sale to go through.

Waiting for someone to get in touch with you.

Waiting in the queue, stuck in a traffic jam or at the airport

And then there are pandemic lockdowns to put up with… anything that stops you from getting on with life, and it’s all a little outside your control.

There is only so much you can do to influence your situation, and sometimes you will just have to sit it out until some movement takes place.

It is easy to get impatient, when the time of waiting seems to drag on forever, but instead of thinking that life is passing you by, you can accept stagnation as a gift.

Yes, it is possible to make the most of feeling stuck, because it does have its advantages…

“What we are waiting for is not as important as what happens to us while we are waiting. Trust the process.”
Mandy Hale

Stagnation doesn’t mean that nothing is happening.

While you are enduring a long waiting phase, tiny shifts occur, internally and externally, without you realising.

A new perspective, a change of heart or mind, a new insight, new opportunities, changing circumstances or priorities….

Even while you are stuck in a long checkout queue, you can simply pause, take a deep breath and enjoy the standstill before you continue being busy again.

Getting back to basics, slowing down…

Stagnation in the Cosmic Journaling Oracle may ask you to embrace a waiting phase as a gift.

You have time to consider your options, discover new opportunities, enjoy the calm before the storm.

Stagnation may also suggest delays, lack of progress, your patience will be tested, self-restriction, rigidity, or the process of sowing, waiting and reaping.

Perhaps you have fallen into the trap of waiting for the future to come –

waiting for the weekend
waiting for summer
waiting to be happy again one day…

In this case, Stagnation reminds you to focus on the present and make the most of the here and now.

Questions to ask:

What area in your life are you currently waiting for something, and what is it you are actually waiting for?
What can you do to be more relaxed about it and even enjoy this period of stagnation?
Look back into your past and remind yourself of times, when you had to wait for something. How did you deal with it, and what happened in the end?

While a longer waiting period in life can be testing, it can also offer new possibilities and a reminder to make the most of the present, spending the extra time available on what you love.

Learn more about the Cosmic Journaling Oracle deck here.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

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Celebrate The Little Things

While the pandemic has caused havoc over the last twelve months across the world, it has taught us that all we can do is surrender and accept what we cannot control.⁠

But it has taught us so much more. Humans have always managed to rise from destruction and disaster.

While we are still counting the costs and trying to fathom the enormity of our losses, there is also light beginning to shine through the cracks.

We have learned

to enjoy your own company⁠
to be inventive and resourceful⁠
to collaborate⁠
to be of service⁠
to be disciplined⁠
to cook and even grow your own food⁠
about our strengths and weaknesses⁠
about what we truly value and what is unimportant⁠
how vulnerable our way of life is⁠

What have you learned so far? ⁠

Take a moment every day to recognise and acknowledge your achievements, a-ha moments, the little wins, insights, flashes of delight, the peace and beauty of a moment.

Celebrate the little things that give you joy and a sense of satisfaction.⁠

Amidst doubt and uncertainty, there is always a reason to celebrate something, even if it’s small, and even if we have to celebrate alone.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

PS: Check out Ten Tarot Affirmations To Overcome Anxiety

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Healthy Habits: Empowering Morning Affirmations

Life has been messy for many people since the pandemic and various lockdown measures began to restrict all our lives.

And while we are all trying to hang in there and make the best of a bad situation, mental health issues have started to creep up on us, mostly in the form of anxiety, stress and depression.

Lack of energy, tearfulness, overwhelm, aches and pains, constantly worrying… one way to stay focused on our wellbeing is cultivating a positive mindset.

Affirmations are underrated yet they do work if used regularly.

Positive self-talk every day can help increase confidence and optimism, so here are empowering morning affirmations you can use to start the day in a better frame of mind:

Today will be a great day.
I am excited about how today will unfold.
I savour each moment.
I am positive. I am powerful.
I trust my own wisdom.
I take good care of myself.
I am in control of my attitude and thoughts.
I live by my sacred values.
I communicate with love and integrity.
I persevere despite difficulties.
I am strong.
I am comfortable being on my own.
I accept what life offers me today.
My heart and mind are in alignment.
I let go of what stops me from living life fully and joyfully.
I choose life.
I am doing the best I can.
I stay clear of destructive habits.
I feel energised.
I am shining my light.
I am present.
I am rising above my worries and fears.
I am enough.
I am right where I need to be.
I am open to all possibilities.

Create a new healthy habit by turning these affirmations into your daily morning meditation to feel more positive and energised at the start of your day.

You can also grab the printable version on my Patreon.

For even more affirmations, check out my tarot affirmations to overcome anxiety.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

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One Powerful Way To Overcome Your Fears

Our irrational fears have the power to stop us from living life to the full, but there are also proven techniques that help us overcome them.

We are all fearful of something, for example:

fear of flying
fear of public speaking
fear of meeting new people
fear of darkness
fear of heights
fear of change

What are the fears you are grappling with that hold you back?

There are thousands of websites with tips on how to overcome your fears, and Feel the Fear and do it Anyway is certainly good advice.

You need to embrace your fear and carry it across the threshold of resistance, a hard step to take, and many people prefer to avoid what they are afraid of.

But there is one powerful way to overcome your fears, which I want to share with you.

First, you need to know what fear does to your body.

Imagine feeling nervous about an upcoming job interview.

Your body reacts by producing adrenaline that is circulating through your body, increasing your heart rate and after a while making you feel sick.

Your nervousness, which is caused by fear, increases, and reaches its climax when you actually attend the interview.

By this time, some people are visibly nervous and have difficulties communicating clearly and confidently.

But a rush of adrenaline is also caused by another feeling:

⭐ EXCITEMENT ⭐

Transforming your fear into excitement makes use of the adrenaline your body is producing.

This way, you are not fighting your body’s reaction to your fear but transmute it into new, positive energy.

Instead of telling yourself that you are feeling scared or fearful, tell yourself that you are feeling excited.

Excited about

meeting new people
showcasing your skills and expertise
finding out, if this new job will be a good fit
this new opportunity on offer
learning from this experience

The more you tell yourself that you are excited about this job interview, the more your fear will weaken and turn into positive energy.

While fear is negative stress that drains you, excitement is positive stress that makes you feel alive.

Perhaps this technique is putting a smile on your face, it may even sound ridiculous to you, but try it next time you are nervous or afraid.

Turn your fear into excitement.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

Setting Goals For The Year Ahead When You Don’t Have Any

New year, new beginnings, resolutions and intentions – setting goals for the year ahead.

For everyone making plans at this time of year, there are tons of diaries and planners available covering a variety of themes to help turn dreams into reality.

If you want to get somewhere or achieve something, those planners are designed for you to write everything down and check up on yourself every day / week / month.

Even I have created the Tarot Moon Journal Planner (in its 7th year!) for all tarot enthusiasts, who not only want to be more mindful about their aspirations, but also want to learn some new tarot skills along the way.

But perhaps you are thinking that this is not for you, because you don’t have any specific goals except survive and have some good times along the way.

For many people, last year turned out to be difficult and even traumatic at times, and if you are one of them, then perhaps all you want to do is pick yourself up and simply make the most of the cards you are going to be dealt with this year.

Yes, it’s perfectly okay not to have any goals.

Don’t worry about it. Just let all that hype go.

A better way is to tune into your growth mindset and set daily/weekly intentions together with small tasks that are achievable, so you can take mindful action to live your best life every day.

You can do a bit of soul work with your tarot cards to gain some perspective and direction.

Perspective is always good, especially when you feel you’re drifting and you don’t quite know what you want or where you’re heading.

Start off by calculating your year card (mine is Justice this year)

Then, work out your word for the year based on your year card (my word for this year is LEAP).

Check out Cosmic Faery’s Journal Workbook for creative tarot journaling ideas

Your personal power word will offer you a sense of purpose, direction and guidance over the next twelve months ahead.

Now you should have some idea of what you might want to focus on over the coming months, and you can continue to draw tarot cards for more specific ideas.

On the image below you can see a page from my Tarot Moon Journal, on which I have simply recorded the cards I drew for specific areas in my life:

tarot moon journal page — Tarot journaling for healing and personal growth…

These cards can give you a hint on what you may wish to aim for, but if not, then just leave them there and revisit the page from time to time to see, how the messages of the cards begin to unfold.

There’s no need for having any flashy goals in order to have a great year ahead.

If you have experienced loss, heartache, health issues or any other challenging situation, every little step towards recovery and healing will be a huge achievement.

Drawing a card and asking What can I do today to help me heal? can be an empowering way to make a positive difference without getting overwhelmed by elaborate or even out-of-reach goals.

Once you have made a start with your year card and personal power word, you may feel a little more in control of the direction you wish to take.

And having at least some control over your life is a good feeling. You can build on that with regular journaling as a personal development and healing tool.

If you would like to learn more about creative tarot journaling for healing and personal growth, then please check out my free resources.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

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Meditating with a Wandering Mind

Meditation is often seen as sitting in the lotus position with your eyes closed and all those pesky thoughts in your head blissfully silenced.

However, many people are meditating with a wandering mind, unable to switch off intrusive thoughts.

First of all, as long as you feel comfortable, you can meditate in whatever position you choose – on a chair, on your sofa, in your bed, on the grass….

Next, we all know it is so much harder trying to suppress or avoid something. In fact, you can make it worse the harder you try.

For example, if I asked you to look around the room you are in now and NOT look at anything that is red, I bet you WILL look at everything that is red.

And if I asked you NOT to blink, yes, you guessed it, you WILL blink.

So, what to do about those annoying thoughts you can’t silence during meditation?

The answer is simple: accept them. Let them be. Don’t judge them or yourself.

And while you are meditating with a wandering mind, focus on your breathing and let those thoughts come and go.

If you are listening to a guided meditation, don’t be irritated by any unwanted thoughts creeping in.

It’s normal.

Silencing your monkey mind takes practice. After all, sitting there doing and thinking nothing is not as easy as everyone thinks 🙂

You can also try chanting mantras, if you are meditating on your own.

You will find, however, that despite your thoughts getting in the way at times, your meditation will have given you space and a break from rushing around.

The reality of meditation is being present in that moment, observing your breath, your senses, your body and even your random thoughts without judgement.

And while you keep practicing meditation, surrender to what is while gently offering your mind an alternative direction.

The more you practice, the easier it will become, but it will benefit you right from the start.

Need a guided audio meditation? Check out my Meditation for the Wandering Mind ?

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

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Emotional Healing with the Pisces Full Moon

There is always something mystical about the full moon – its illumination, intense energy and impact it has on our feelings and emotions.

The Pisces full moon is just around the corner and has already gifted me with some psychedelic dreams 🙂

But weird dreams are a sign of something more magical – the full moon’s power to supercharge our intuitive, psychic and artistic abilities.

Even more so, tuning into the Pisces full moon energy can help us recognise and free ourselves from emotional blocks and self-limitations.

So, let it all come out, feel what you feel, sit with it and observe it without judgement. It’s all part of emotional healing.

In practical terms

if in doubt, trust your gut
be mindful that emotions may become more intense, which can be confusing
express your feelings without shame (crying is a good stress reliever)
pay attention to your dreams
meditate to open your third eye
get creative (write, draw, make)
apologize sincerely to someone you hurt in the past
connect with your spirit guides or any cosmic forces you want to connect with
practice calming yoga poses (e.g. child’s pose, shavasana, lotus)

You can access full guidance with a snapshot spread and journaling prompts in the Cosmic Spirit Sanctuary on Patreon.

While the Pisces full moon can assist with emotional healing, please remember that there is no miracle cure happening overnight.

Emotional healing is a process, and during the upcoming lunation we have the chance to move this process forward, to progress on our journey.

How can the Tarot assist you on your healing journey?

Check out this wonderful article I have recently discovered – Tarot and Astrology are recognised to be beneficial for mental health and as a result used more widely in mainstream therapeutic settings.

That’s why in my work I focus on teaching the Tarot and how you can apply this magical tool in everyday life to nurture your mental wellbeing in an empowering way.

For regular guidance and online support, please do check out my very affordable membership options.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

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When Patience Becomes A Curse

Patience is a virtue.

Or is it?

I have been brought up to be patient, to avoid short-fused hot-tempered reactions, to take my time rather than rushing, to be patient with myself while trying to learn a new skill etc.

But along the way I have noticed that sometimes patience was holding me back.

Like when I was patiently

tolerating toxic people, hoping they would change
sticking with a shitty relationship, hoping it would miraculously turn into something wonderful
enduring a dead-end job, hoping its boredom and lack of spirit wouldn’t kill me

It can be easy to confuse patience with not setting boundaries.

Because patience often requires effort, it can be exhausting after a while.

So when you pull Patience from the Cosmic Journaling Oracle deck, you can ask yourself:

Do I need to be more patient, or is it time to set some boundaries?
Who is testing my patience? Is it worth it?
In the past, in what situations should I have been more patient and why? And when did patience not serve me but stopped me from moving forward?
How do other people show patience towards me (in a family setting, amongst friends or at work)? Have I tested their patience?

Patience is a virtue, but it can also be a curse. How is patience serving you?

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

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