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Going Pro: How to Overcome Inner Blocks and Nerves

Tarot PerformanceYou have been studying the Tarot for years, practised on family and friends, who all gave you encouraging feedback, and now you are thinking of going pro – advertising your services and charging for them.

You will meet people, you’ve never met before, and suddenly that is making you feel a little nervous. Will you do a good job? Will paying clients be happy with your readings?

When on the threshold of turning your hobby into a business, it is normal to feel a little insecure about your abilities; after all, reading tarot cards isn’t an exact science. It depends much on your intuition and how well you connect with your clients.

At times you can feel like a performer, especially when you do corporate events and parties. Indeed, my insurance company files my profession under “performing arts”, so it is no surprise that some Tarot readers can feel stage fright Laughing

Here are some common issues I have come across, and over time have found my personal solutions, most of which involve a simple mind shift and learning my lessons. Perhaps some of them you have experienced, too:

1. At Tarot parties / corporate events, peoples’ reactions to your readings are mixed. Some are happy, others are dismissive, perhaps even ridicule what you do. They then reveal that they are sceptics anyway. Negative reactions can be disheartening.

My experience: Tarot readings for entertainment purposes need to be approached differently from regular Tarot healing work you do with clients, who approach you for guidance. You need to realise that people at parties and large events want to have fun, they have had a few drinks and expect some good old-fashioned fortune-telling. The last thing they want to do is have a therapy session. In addition, when you read for many people at an event amidst music, laughter and banter, you can easily get distracted and lose concentration.

Suggestion: Public events get most Tarot Readers nervous, and it is perfectly normal NOT to get it right for every person. They all have different expectations, which you cannot always meet. Rather than getting flustered by the noise and amount of people, take your time to tune in to each individual; yes, some will see you for the fun, but others will have some serious questions. Learn to interpret the cards in a light-hearted and witty way to entertain the sceptics and fun-seekers. Don’t take any negative comments personally. Detach yourself from wanting to give the perfect reading to everyone. Make sure you drink plenty of water during the gig to stay hydrated, and really try to relax!

If you tend to be a somewhat shy and introvert person, then busy party events may not be ideal for you; instead, you could focus more on small house parties with up to six people, who are genuinely interested in Tarot and other esoteric services you can offer, such as Reiki, astrology charts, angel readings, palm reading etc. You may find these type of events more rewarding.

2. When you offer free readings, they flow beautifully. You can easily tune in, and the client is delighted. But when you charge for them, you tend to freeze up and get panicky.

My experience: The moment you charge for readings, it’s easy to feel the pressure of doing a good job for your client and offering value-for-money. Perhaps you need to shift some beliefs around the value of your work. You may even have fear of failure, worry about negative feedback or you feel like a fraud, questioning your authority to be in a position of guide, healer and illuminator.

Suggestion: Learn to acknowledge that you ARE worthy of getting paid for your services. Offer a full refund on email/phone readings, which have been paid for in advance, if they haven’t gone too well. Knowing in advance that the client can ask for a refund, can take the pressure off. Likewise, at face-to-face readings let the clients know they only need to pay you at the end of the session, if they are satisfied with the reading. That takes pressure off you, too.

You could also start by asking for a donation rather than payment; this can be ideal, if you want to build your confidence. Fellow card readers have had mixed experiences with this approach; people do like to get things for free and are reluctant to pay voluntarily, so don’t take a non-donation as negative! And when you do get a donation, you know that you’ve done an exceptional job.

Always remember the positive feedback you have received; it is proof that you can do it! Keep going despite your fears, and your confidence will grow.

3. Negative comments and feedback

They do crop up, especially at the beginning, when you lack experience. Make sure you take them on board and learn from them rather than getting depressed.

My experience: Negative feedback most often relates to not being specific in a reading. Perhaps the client wants you to mention names, places or the colour of their granny’s car. But there can be all sorts of reasons.

One complaint I received a long time ago was about the number of cards drawn; the reading was basically fine and I was accurate, but I only drew 3 cards! The client expected 10 cards to be drawn…Duh! My lesson learned: communicate with the client in advance about their expectations!

On another occasion, my reading really sucked; I just couldn’t connect with the client. It happens. I’m not perfect and have bad hair days like anybody else. At least I’m not in a job where I could kill someone with my imperfection. My lesson learned: take it with dignity, apologise and move on!

Suggestion: It’s all down to communication. Make sure your client knows in advance about the type of readings you offer. Find out what they expect to gain from the reading. By all means, let them know how many cards your will draw, and of course how long the reading will take. In time you will learn how to handle a reading and being in charge of it. But a good reading doesn’t solely depend on you; your client needs to cooperate too, so there is no point in completely blaming yourself or doubt your abilities.

Remember to ask your client early on, if the reading so far makes sense to them, so you know you are on the right track. If you find yourself in a position, where you can’t seem to get it right, it is best to bow out gracefully and terminate the reading to avoid wasting any more time trying too hard. Believe me, it only happens very rarely, so don’t get hung about it when it happens.

4. Reader’s Block

The cards are in front of you, the client is waiting expectantly for your reading, but you can’t make sense of the cards at all.

My experience: Once upon a time, four court cards and an Ace in a five-card spread lost me. On another occasion, I found it hard to focus on the reading due to my own personal circumstances at the time. But I did manage to save both readings.

Suggestion: Don’t panic! Take a deep breath. Focus on one card first rather than trying to see the whole picture immediately. You can also avoid confusion and overwhelm by turning over just one card at a time rather than revealing the whole spread in one go. This way you can interpret each card separately, and once all the cards are turned over, you can read the whole spread and story.

Make sure you aren’t preoccupied with your own personal issues that can inhibit your mental clarity. Take adequate time before the reading to relax and ground yourself. If you have some major things going on in your life, then perhaps it would be best not to do the reading. Don’t let your client down by trying to do a reading despite feeling physically unwell or emotionally not up to it.

Overall, it is important to learn from your mistakes and not get discouraged by challenges, which I believe keep us humble and our egos in check! But whatever you do, don’t let your inner blocks and nerves hold you back.

What kind of blocks did you have to overcome, and how did you do it? What current challenges are you facing? Please share your thoughts in the comment box below. Love to hear from you!

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

 

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Tarot Moon Journal 2013 Workbook

Tarot Moon Journal Front PageIf you love Tarot journalling, then perhaps you would like to treat yourself to my latest ebook, the Tarot Moon Journal 2013.

It’s a calendar/Tarot diary/workbook with lots of journalling sheets to do monthly readings in tune with the moon – a great way to incorporate astrology in your Tarot work. And it’s only a Fiver!

A magickal little treat that will last for a whole year Laughing

Find out more about the Journal here:

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You can now also download a trial lesson for my Tarot Astrology correspondence course.

Visit the course page and click on the PDF document link:

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If you enjoy the exercise, you can book a trial lesson to get feedback on your work. And if you decide to enrol on the Tarot Astrology course, you will get a full refund of the trial lesson fee. Also, you will also receive the Tarot Moon Journal 2013 free as a bonus during December and January.

Stay tuned for some new Tarot Astrology articles  and a review of the Sirian Starseed Tarot coming soon. 

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

 

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Exploring Your Persona Cards

Sharman-Caselli Tarot
© 2005 Connections Book Publishing Ltd

The court cards in the Tarot represent personality types, and in a reading they can relate to people, energies or personality traits that need either to be applied to a certain situation or avoided. If you use the Tarot to deepen your self-knowledge, you can explore your personality (and that of others) by identifying your persona card and its opposing shadow card.

First of all, find your persona card from the list below; this card relates to your sun sign:

Aries—Queen of Wands
Taurus—King of Pentacles
Gemini—Knight of Swords
Cancer—Queen of Cups
Leo—King of Wands
Virgo—Knight of Pentacles
Libra—Queen of Swords
Scorpio—King of Cups
Sagittarius—Knight of Wands
Capricorn—Queen of Pentacles
Aquarius—King of Swords
Pisces—Knight of Cups

The Pages are not included in this list, but if you feel more like a child-like Page rather than a Knight, Queen or King, then choose the Page of the suit that relates to your sun sign, e.g. if you are Gemini (Knight of Swords), you can choose the Page of Swords instead. This is especially useful, when you look at your personality/behaviour patterns in specific situations or with particular people. Next, identify your opposing card by taking the following two steps:
 
1. Select the opposite role of your persona card, e.g. if you are a King, select Page:
 
King ———- Page

Queen ——– Knight

Knight ——– Queen

Page ———- King

2. Select the opposite of your suit, e.g. if you are Cups, choose Wands:

Wands ———- Cups

Cups ———— Wands

Swords ———- Pentacles

Pentacles ——– Swords

So, for me this means that my persona card is the Knight of Cups (I’m Pisces), and my opposing shadow card is the Queen of Wands.

Your persona card relating to your sun sign reflects your outer personality and your strengths; personality traits you openly express and feel comfortable with.

Your shadow card on the other hand indicates hidden elements of your personality, weaknesses, and character traits and behaviours you prefer to keep hidden, are unconsciously suppressed, or may need to be developed.

In my case, the Knight of Cups reflects my introvert, dreamy and intuitive personality, and the Queen of Wands indicates a need to be more social, take action and feel more confident about my abilities.

Have you worked out your persona and shadow card? What do they teach you about yourself? 

Try this exercise with family members, colleagues and friends. This way you can explore and identify people’s strengths and weaknesses and develop good judgement of character over time.


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Doom, Gloom and Temperance

We live in a world, where scaremongering dominates the media, and everybody thinks we’re living in dangerous, uncertain times. Well, to be honest, mankind has ALWAYS lived in precarious times, from the Stone Age to the present. That won’t change until mankind is extinct, but we can make an effort and cultivate a more balanced world view.

If you are a natural worrier and pessimist, the following short story, which has been attributed to the Native American Cherokee Indians, is wonderfully insightful, and it reminds me of the “Art of Temperance”:

The story is about a boy who tells his grandfather that he is feeling very angry and upset.

The grandfather explains to the boy that he too sometimes feels angry but also he often feels very happy.

The grandfather says it is as if there are two wolves battling inside him.

One is very angry, aggressive and acts out of fear. This wolf wants to fight all the time.

The other wolf is happy, playful, and only wants to make friends and live in peace. But the two wolves are constantly battling inside.

The little boy asks: which wolf wins? And the grandfather replies: ‘the one I feed’.

We can’t deny that there’s a lot of bad stuff going on in the world, but life is also beautiful.

Which wolf are you feeding today?

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Nine of Cups Contentment – A Quick Meditation

“Fame or integrity: which is more important?
Money or happiness: which is more valuable?

Success or failure: which is more destructive?
If you look to others for fulfilment, you will never truly be fulfilled.

If your happiness depends on money, you will never be happy with yourself.
Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are.

When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.”

- Lao Tzu

The Nine of Cups in Tarot suggests happy times, joy and contentment. In a material world, we sometimes need to remind ourselves that emotional well-being doesn’t necessarily depend on the acquisition of things, but on the enjoyment of simple pleasures around us.

Here’s a little visualisation to help you feel more content:

1. Sit in a comfortable position and close your eyes. Consider the word “contentment”. What does it mean to you? What thoughts and feelings does it evoke in you?

2. Recall a moment or time when you felt truly contented; perhaps when you were lying on a beach, pursued your favourite hobby or spent time with loved ones. Imagine yourself in that moment now, allowing the warm and positive feeling of contentment to fill your mind and body.

3. Now bring that sense of contentment into the present moment and let it linger for as long as you can.

I hope you find this simple meditation useful.

Warmest Wishes,

Christiane

 

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Tarot of Quotes: The Devil

The latest addition to my Tarot of Quotes deck is the Devil.

Here we see a demon-like creature trapped behind metal bars. With a little effort, he could escape through the gap of the spikes.

The creature isn’t a particularly pretty one to look at. The idea behind this is that dependency, negative thinking, self-sabotage, complacency, apathy and materialism can suppress our potential, soulful purpose and indeed true beauty on a spiritual level. This isn’t about physical beauty; the most attractive person can be emotionally and spiritually empty and shallow; the physical beauty hiding an ugly soul lacking spirit.

Here we see the reverse; a creature, ugly on the outside, whose inner beauty needs to be revealed and shine.

The Devil reminds us that we can easily become slaves and trapped in a situation we’d rather not be in but are too complacent or even comfortable to leave behind. This can be a relationship you put up with, because a split would be too much of an upheaval on a material level, or you stay “because of the kids”.

You could be stuck in a job that bores your brains out, or doesn’t offer you the career progression you deserve, but you stay, because it pays your bills and perhaps even provides you with the material luxuries you think you cannot live without.

Maybe you are addicted to something – alcohol, drugs, sex, food – are obsessed with someone or something, and on top of it with negative thoughts like “I can’t…” and “It’s impossible…” you put even more obstacles in your way.

Over time, this situation can make you look somewhat unattractive; you smile less, look stressed, worn out, depressed…It happens gradually over time, and you may not realise it.

When this card comes up in a reading, you need to acknowledge that you let your inner Devil take over your life, and now it’s time to regain control and momentum to escape from your trap and move on into a new direction.

How do you do that?

You need to be aware that it can be uncomfortable, painful and an upheaval, but as long as you are clear about what you really want, then you can develop the determination and endurance to persevere along your new path ahead.

Start saying “I can…” and “I will…”.

When you can say “Whatever happens, it will be worth it”, you are on your way to a new adventure.

Life should be fun and an adventure. And making you feel more alive, it needs to be a little risky at times, don’t you think?  Wink

Where do you feel trapped in your life right now? What are the reasons? What negative thoughts are holding you back?  

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

 

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Are You Investing In Yourself?

Yesterday I posted on my Tarot Journal blog about how important it is at this time (and any other time for that matter) to nurture and develop a healthy relationship with yourself. This includes spending time with people, who value and support you in your life, emotionally and spiritually.

Raise your self-worth and confidence by doing the things you love and learn new skills. When you feel comfortable in your own skin, you can be a beacon of light for others.

If you are in the process of learning Tarot, and you have surrounded yourself with books and other self-study materials trying to make sense of the cards and spreads, then you may be wondering, when it will finally “click” and you can do readings with confidence without having to refer to a book.

At this point you should ask yourself, why you want to learn Tarot. Is it for self-exploration? Learning about the mysteries of the cards and empower yourself with that hidden knowledge? Or would you like to earn some extra money by giving Tarot readings to the public?

If your answer is “yes” to at least one of these suggestions, then consider learning from my experience: I rediscovered Tarot in 2001 after a break from it for 15 years. I failed at my first attempt in the early 1980s (was trying to learn on my own with limited resources), but this time I stuck with it thanks to a wealth of information on the internet. However, again I studied mostly by myself, and it took me quite a while to get the hang of it.

Then I decided to join TABI (Tarot Association of the British Isles) and attended this wonderful organisation’s annual Tarot conferences, where my learning of the Tarot was accelerated thanks to the amazing guest speakers.

I realise today that I wasted time NOT to invest in Tarot lessons and mentoring sooner. That was a big mistake.

If you are thinking of starting your own Tarot business, then time is even more of the essence, especially if your finances are limited to keep you going until you earn an income. You need support to help you gain the skills and confidence you need to be successful and avoid mistakes that could jeopardise your business venture.

Learning with an experienced Tarot Mentor on a personal level will accelerate your comprehension of Tarot and take you quickly to where you want to be, and it doesn’t need to cost a fortune!

Annual membership of the Tarot Study is just £35

A one-off Skype session with me from only £22 (you will be amazed about how much you learn in just 45 minutes talking with me)

Check out my Tarot eCourse for Beginners and my Tarot Astrology eCourse, where you will receive in-depth, personal 1-2-1 support via email

And if you live in Leeds, you can study with me in person.

 

Think about it, but don’t wait as long as I did. Right from the start, you will notice the difference between learning on your own and studying with an experienced mentor.

For me, learning never stops, and I still invest in myself today, benefiting from the knowledge and experience of the mentors, who teach and inspire me.

If you have any questions, please contact me, or start off by requesting your Tarot freebies folder.

Warmest wishes,

Christiane

 

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