Quite a while ago, I came across a discussion in an online tarot forum about querents asking the same question again and again, especially with regards to relationship issues such as breakups.
Many tarot readers were adamant that they refuse such repeat requests, as the querent has apparently “not moved on yet”.
I didn’t want to get into an argument, so I refrained from admitting that I was totally fine with that.
The simple reason is that I don’t assume anything, when I get a reading request.
Relationships can be full of drama, and I trust that my readings will reflect these issues and make the querent aware.
Relationships can be on and off. People meet, get together, split up, get back together again… and this can carry on for a while.
Yes, you may not think this is healthy, but it is not down to us to pass judgement and then refuse to help someone, who needs guidance.
Energies around the querent change despite the same question being asked, and this will usually be picked up by the cards you draw.
You may be answering the same question differently every time, even if there are just a few adjustments.
Usually after the third time of asking the same question, I offer the querent a quick phone consultation to establish what is going on in their life.
These conversations have always revealed the bigger picture of their situation and also how accurate my readings had been in the past relating to the issue.
Emotional turmoil can take some time to come to terms with. In that situation the querent may need reassurance, encouragement, a new insight or perspective.
The last thing I want to do is take the moral high ground and turn them away for asking the same question yet again. I see it as my job to support them with compassion and an open mind.
Is he/she coming back to me? Sometimes they do!
Life is not black and white.
We cannot expect love to follow a straight forward pattern or even make it so, because it is not always straight forward.
We cannot base our answers solely on our experiences or that of people we know. This is where we can get it badly wrong as professional readers, if we are not careful.
Only because my friend got back together with her husband after a two-year separation, that doesn’t mean everyone else will, or nobody else will ever get back together with their ex.
If they made the right decision is a different matter.
What counts is how you answer the question. How much you empower your client.
For some it is hard to move on, for others there is still unfinished business. And then there are those, who are being played with, who are confused and try to make sense of an ongoing saga.
They need someone, who can see the bigger picture from far, far away. Someone, who patiently answers their repeat questions, knowing that at one point it will create a positive shift in the querent’s mind.
It is all down to your judgement without prejudice to make the right decision when faced with repeat questions.
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